Love is affection, attraction and emotional attachment.

Lust is mostly physical attraction & fu*king amazing sex.

A lot of guys think they can only have one or the other. So will pick a “pretty average” chick to settle down with, but before settling down will try to have lots of lustful relationships with “hot chicks”

But you can have both. You can have love and lust. That sexy ass girl you wish for, generally you think she is out of your reach. Or that you are punching above your weight. So you will place her in a “just sex” category. This is merely YOUR lack of self worth.

Men and women think differently about a hell of a lot of things. Intellectually people know men and women are different but yet as we are all one species of humans we kinda confuse one human thinks the same as the other as we are “all the same” all human so to speak. And the biggest confusion in relationships is that men and women don`t recognise that men and women think completely differently about sex. Apart from the obvious that you guys have dicks and women have vaginas, but men and women are wired completely differently also. Men are more logical and women more emotional.

So What Has This Got To Do With Sex?

Men “think” that sexy ass women is……

Not going to want to settle down.

She is far too good for me so wouldn`t even bother to ask her to settle down anyways.

Men think she thinks you are only good enough for sex.

She is only good enough for sex and not long term.

That sexy ass chick can pull someone far better than me to settle down with.

Ect ect ect

Here`s the thing… I mentioned above that women are more emotional than men. That means that a hell of a lot of women want to settle down. One night stands and casual relationships are mainly a guy thing. And generally that guy has some kind of “issue” with women. (not in a bad way)He may not even be aware of it. But generally humans are created for love relationships. Not casual.

If you are in a lust relationship I pretty much guarantee that your women partner WOULD want to settle down and only stays in the lust relationship to keep your ass. Which is the entire reason why you attracted her in the first place as (you both) have low self worth or some form of negative issue. Now for those of you that are thinking, I aint got time for a relationship that`s why I only do casual. Bullshit! How many actors spend months away from their partners on set in different countries? Do they only have casual relationships? Footballers travel all over the place. Only a few cheat on their Mrs.

Defining the word “casual” as a title in relationships which in essence is lust, is you merely stating “I do not want to commit to you” It is not the women you are committing to that is the problem. The problem is why don`t you want to commit to the relationship?

And as stated above, most men do want to commit to the lust relationship but are in denial of it as they generally think “she`s too good” and therefore she is not marriage material. For some strange reason men associate a women who is sexy and good in bed, can`t manage housewife stuff. And housewives can`t be hot to trot for sex, as household things prevent this.

So Why Is That And What’s The Solution?

(The Too Good Syndrome)

The highest reason why men think this is because of their low self esteem and self confidence issues. If you meet a women who knows her body, know what she wants sex wise and loves to look good and looks after her body then she is a confidant person in essence. She may not even be aware of her own confidence but the reason why it may knock your confidence is because men generally only have to sh*t, shower and shave to look good. When you meet anyone who you know does more than you (even if you are not consciously ware of it) but You Will Be Aware of it and be taken aback. Therefore subconsciously you will put her above you and as better then you are.

Now there are men that actually do just want sex from a relationship. But that in generally is a very few amount. This is for the guys that are confused about lust and love.

I Love This Saying And It`s Relevant….

A man was trapped in his house during a flood. He began praying to God to rescue him. He had a vision in his head of God’s hand reaching down from heaven and lifting him to safety. The water started to rise in his house. His neighbour urged him to leave and offered him a ride to safety. The man yelled back, “I am waiting for God to save me.” The neighbour drove off in his pick-up truck.

The man continued to pray and hold on to his vision. As the water began rising in his house, he had to climb up to the roof. A boat came by with some people heading for safe ground. They yelled at the man to grab a rope they were ready to throw and take him to safety. He told them that he was waiting for God to save him. They shook their heads and moved on.

The man continued to pray, believing with all his heart that he would be saved by God. The flood waters continued to rise. A helicopter flew by and a voice came over a loudspeaker offering to lower a ladder and take him off the roof. The man waved the helicopter away, shouting back that he was waiting for God to save him. The helicopter left. The flooding water came over the roof and caught him up and swept him away. He drowned.

When he reached heaven and asked, “God, why did you not save me? I believed in you with all my heart. Why did you let me drown?” God replied, “I sent you a pick-up truck, a boat and a helicopter and you refused all of them. What else could I possibly do for you?”


Now I don`t believe in god but I believe people get given signs from the universe to help them evolve and have clarity about their true identity and self. So if you attract a “too good to be true” women, then that is the universe giving you a sign to MATCH her confidence. Not to back down and settle with an “average” chick. But still that is exactly what most do.

I believe relationships should challenge you to be and want more. Not from the other person telling you to “fix up”, but by you wanting to fix up. Because by you doing that makes you a better person. Settling is boring, mundane and becomes depressing. I advice all single guys to definitely go for women who you feel is above you. Although that is not “correct” but most women don`t see love as higher or lower. That is mainly a man thing. Which is how men are wired. But just because you are wired that way, doesn`t mean she is wired that way.

Men think they have to look after women, but women want to be protected more then looked after. In this day and age, women look after themselves. That doesn’t mean you are useless. It doesn’t matter how beautiful, sexy, great in bed or even if you met a women who stated she was head director of Microsoft! That woman would not care if you were on a low wage, brought up on a council estate, had eight kids with all different baby mums, recently divorced, lived in a bedsit and wore second hand clothes. Just if you state you love her, stand by her, show up for her, have her back and protect her will mean far more then you thinking you have to match her financially.  That will be her equivalent of you “matching her level”

If your women is on your back, forcing you to fix up and demanding more money from you then she is not the women for you.

I am constantly telling guys to tap into their intuition. As guys fail to do this big time! But YOU KNOW how you feel about a partner. I will also state if you are stuck what to do relationship wise, ask yourself this question “What would someone who loved themselves do?” I can pretty much guarantee if you are with a hot chick or interested in someone who you think “incorrectly” that she is out of your league, by asking that question your internal knowing will say Go For It!


If you have attracted a lust relationship and want to go serious then I suggest you appreciate the opportunity giving to you by god, your guides or whoever and go with it instead of chickening out of it with excuses/low confidence. And here`s why I say Take Action Fast. If this beauty is actually all that, then as with my God example, she wont be around long. The opportunity will be given but if you refuse to take it then she will see the relationship not progressing and opt out to get a man who will commit. Then you can have your self fulfilling prophecy moment by saying “I knew I wasn’t good enough cos now she’s only gone and married Brad Pitt look alike” When if you had the balls she could have married you instead!

So Take Note And Take Action.

You see the key to the happy ever after relationship is for you to date your lust partner because she makes you feel fantastic right? I bet you brush your teeth, look good, your well alert, on form, smelling good, never late, slightly nervous, excited and looking hot when you meet your Mrs lust? Why is that? Because you don`t want to lose her and subconsciously Mrs Lust brings out the best in you, your best side. Mrs average only brings out your average side. Your internal self & higher mind knows what best for you and fu*king amazing sex in a relationship can hold a relationship forever! Sex bonds the relationship far more than the actual relationship itself. BUT…. Be warned. Great sex is a key to a long lasting relationship BUT great sex without emotional commitment means NOTHING. If you are holding back your feeling and not taking action to commit to a exclusive relationship instead of casual…. then you will lose her.

Scared Of The Ride

If you get given a sports car, don`t just sit in it as your scared how fast it will go. Appreciate receiving it, drive it and enjoy the ride. Don’t ask for your Ford Fiesta back???

Sophia x

1 Comment

  1. When you put it like that you cant call it lust anymore can you! Lol. Love your boldness which most tip toe around. Much Love

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